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What You Can Expect From the Best Egg Donor Agencies
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We’re going to let you in on a little secret: not all egg donor agencies are created equal. Trust us, we know.

When we began our own egg donor search to become fathers with the help of a donor, we had no idea how difficult it would be to find a reputable agency to work with. We had many unmet expectations and frustrating setbacks we had to deal with along our journey in finding the perfect donor.

One agency offered us a donor who disappeared the day before hormone treatment, another took a lump sum of money without clarifying what it was for and offered no refund when things didn’t progress. Because of our experience, we decided to open our own agency for the sole purpose of helping others.

If you find yourself overwhelmed at the thought of choosing which egg donor agency to work with, we’re here to help. Here’s what you need to know about egg donor agencies before you commit.

The Best Agencies Work With Clinics

The best donor agencies often work with the leading IVF doctors who specialize in reproductive endocrinology. Find an agency that works with revolutionary fertility clinics which are at the forefront of innovative treatments.

If an agency has a working relationship with reputable clinics, you can be assured that they have proven themselves trustworthy and reliable within the industry. Ask them which clincs they work most with, and if they can get a referral for you to speak to.

The Best Agencies Have Quality Databases

When looking for the perfect egg donor, you will want a selection of egg donors available to you that aren’t about quantity, but quality. These databases should be secure and only viewable by serious clients to protect the privacy of the donors.

Agencies should offer a blend of new donors and repeat donors. Repeat donors prove that this particular agency was fair and considerate of the donor to the point where she would want to work with them again. New donors show they can attract new women who want to do business with them.

Also, look for variety among the donors themselves. All nationalities should be represented. As well as donors who represent different educational backgrounds, different religious affiliations, and all kinds of career choices.

The Best Agencies Have a Rigorous Screening Process

No matter how tempting it may be for an agency to sign every donor who comes by, it’s imperative that there is a screening process in place to protect both the donor and the intended parents.

There are specific requirements every donor must meet before she can sign with an agency.  These requirements include factors such as age, medical history, and emotional stability.

A reputable agency will thoroughly screen each donor. This helps protects both the donor and the intended parents from any negative outcome that could have potentially been prevented.

The Best Agencies Have Competitive Compensation

Donors are giving an extraordinary and sacred gift for another couple to have a family. Because of this selfless act, a reputable agency will compensate their donors fairly.

The best agencies understand how important the donors are to their business. They will treat them with respect and walk them through the entire process from the initial application screening to matching with an intended couple, and finally through the IVF process.

The Best Agencies Practice Good Ethics

Because of the nature of the business, egg donor agencies need to prove that they work within excellent moral and ethical standards.

Good agencies will be aligned with the highest standards in the industry. Find an agency who claims to be part of the SEEDS Union of Ethics and the American Society for Reproductive Medicine or ASRM.

The Best Egg Donor Agencies Offer Compassion and Experience

Find an agency who deals with their customers with compassion. Find an agency that will treat all parties with respect. Find an agency that understands they are helping build families, not just brokering business deals.

The process of finding an egg donor and going through the IVF process is a very unique experience. Find the egg donor agencies that have invaluable knowledge and experience, that are willing to will work with you until you find the perfect match, and who will advocate for you every step of the way.  After all, we’re in the business of building families.

How Same-Sex Couples Can Become Gay Fathers and Mothers
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Gay, lesbian, transgender, or queer. No matter what you identify as there are many options available to you to have a baby.

Granted, having a baby may not be as easy for you and your partner as it is for other couples, but with a little bit of help from the scientific community having a family is possible. And yes, you can even share your DNA with your offspring.

There has never been a better time for a gay couple to have a family.  In fact, between 2 and 3 million kids have at least one parent who is part of the LGTBQ community.  So we say go for it! You can become the gay fathers you’ve always wanted to be. And you can count on us to support you every step of the way.

Options for Gay Couples

Let’s have a quick lesson in biology: To have a baby, you must have sperm (from a man) and an egg (from a woman).  I know you already know this but stay with me.

If you’re in a same-sex relationship, you’re missing one of the crucial pieces. This means you’ll need a third party to step in. We call this third-party reproduction assistance.

To solve that, you’ll need to do at least one of the following:

  • Insemination with a sperm donor: for lesbians

  • IVF with an egg donor: for gay men

  • Surrogacy: for gay men

  • Reciprocal IVF: for lesbians where one partner carries the baby and the other is the egg donor

  • Co-parenting: a planned, platonic relationship

Through these avenues, the possibility of you and your partner having a child that shares your DNA becomes a reality.

Third-Party Reproduction Assistance For Gay Mothers

For lesbian couples, third-party reproduction assistance is relatively straight forward. All you need to do it find a sperm donor, then go through a process called artificial insemination. Because women have eggs and can carry the baby, it is a pretty simple procedure.

Third-Party Reproduction Assistance For Gay Fathers

For male gay couples, it is much more complicated. For gay men to have babies, they’ll need to find an egg donor and a surrogate to carry the baby.

That’s where we come in. We are an agency who has committed their time and resources to help gay couples find the perfect egg donor.  We have been through the process ourselves; we understand the journey. So we are taking our experiences and using them to help other couples become parents.

Egg Donation 101

If you are a gay couple looking into egg donation, here is a basic rundown of how the process works. This is the most common way for same-sex couples to become gay fathers.

Find an Agency

The first step is finding a reputable agency. Preferable one that understands the ins and outs of the IVF process and who sincerely wants what is best for the intended parents.

Also, make sure the agency is duly accredited by the SEEDS Union of Ethics and The American Society for Reproduction Medicine. There are are many agencies out there who do not hold themselves to high ethical standards when it comes to egg donation.

Make a Match

Once you have chosen an agency, you will be given access to their donor database. These donors have been screened, and are ready to be matched with intended parents.

You can be assured that only the best of the best pass the screening process.

Set Up an Agreement

Because of the nature of third-party reproduction assistance, there need to be some legal contracts set up to protect all parties involved.

These issues include:

  • The egg donor voluntarily relinquishes all rights to the eggs.

  • The egg donor has no parental responsibility on any children created using those eggs.

  • The egg donor has no obligations over the child if the baby is born with any sort of birth defects.

  • The timeline of how and when the eggs will be retrieved

  • How the intended parents will pay for any necessary travel expenses

  • If and how any medical costs will be covered

  • Compensation

  • Any fees for canceled cycles

  • And the level of contact between the donor and the intended parents.

In Vitro Fertilization

Next comes the IVF process. This is when the eggs are harvested from a woman’s ovaries, put together with the sperm, and if all goes well, you’ll get a few embryos.

One or two of the healthiest embryos are then transferred to a surrogate who will carry the baby for nine months.

Any extra embryos can be cryopreserved for the future.

The Cost

The cost of finding an egg donor and going through the IVF process can be expensive. Realistically, you can expect to spend anywhere between $18,000 to $30,000. But don’t let that stop you.

There are nonprofit organizations out there to help you get the funding you need.

Same-Sex Couples Can Have a Biological Family Too

Because of advanced scientific techniques, it is possible for gay couples to have babies that share their genes.
So go ahead, fill out a registration form then start thinking of baby names. We’re going to help you get the family you’ve always wanted. We can’t wait to start working with you.