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The 3 Best Tips We've Learned for Men Having Babies
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Let’s talk about men having babies. And no, we don’t mean the 1994 film Junior starring Arnold Swartzenager.  We’re talking about gay men having families. Real families. 

You may not know this, but Elevate Egg Donor Agency was created because of our own personal experiences of finding the perfect donor. We’ve been through the journey of growing our own family, and we’re here to tell a few tips we’ve learned along the way. 

Here’s what a gay couple needs to know before they start:

1. Don’t Rush

Building a family is a process. It takes time, planning, and patience. Here are a few things to consider before you start:

Get on the Same Page

Make sure you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to having a family. More and more opportunities are becoming available for gay couples to become parents. Learn as much as you can about egg donations and surrogacy. Check out resources such as Men Having Babies for guidance and advice from other couples.

Timing is Everything

Sit down with your partner and figure out a realistic timeline. Having a baby could affect your career goals and/or your travel plans. Come up with a plan, so when the time comes to start a family, you are both ready and willing with realistic expectations.

Financially Set

And not scare you, but having a child through an egg donor and a surrogate can be expensive. But don’t panic yet, you can check out nonprofits such as Forming Families Foundation. They offer grants for families who are interested in IVF.

2. Know What You’re Looking For

We get it. Picking out a donor who your child will share genetics with is a big deal. But remember, just like picking a spouse, no one is perfect. 

Make a list with your partner and decide what traits are non-negotiable, then try to be flexible on the rest. Most couples like their donor to share the same heritage so they will share similar characteristics with their child. Other parents focus on specific talents and hobbies. 

Whatever your priorities are, we do our best to match you with the perfect donor. We are confident in our donors and only offer the best of best. 

3. Consider Your Relationship to the Donor

Traditionally, egg donors would remain anonymous. Now, there are more and more situations where the donor and intended parents can decide how just how much they are involved with each other. 

Some parties choose to meet and communicate during the retrieval process, while other donors and parents decide to stay involved with each other throughout the child’s life. This way, they can share significant milestones, communicate and offer insights, and even provide valuable medical background information. 

Men Having Babies

Men having babies can be a long road, but don’t get let that discourage you. We are here to help you every step of the way. We’re your biggest supporters and your biggest cheerleaders.

Come check us out, look around, read our story, and even register to see our donor database. There’s never been a better time to start planning your family. 

7 Facts No One Told You About Donating Eggs

Clothes, food, and money.

All things we regularly donate to help those around us. 

But what does it mean to donate eggs? 

If you’re curious about donating eggs, here are 7 facts that may help you understand the process better.

1. Egg Donation is Highly Regulated

Just like any tissue or organ donation, egg donation is highly regulated. There are a lot of rules that agencies and clinics must follow to ensure the safety of all parties involved. 

First, all women who want to be egg donors must go through a series of physical and psychological screenings. 

These screenings address issues such as 

  • Travel to and from a Zika-infected country

  • Tattoos or piercings with nonsterile needles in the past 12 months

  • History of STDs

  • Any Drug Use

  • The regularity of Menstrual Cycles

  • Medical history

  • Mental Illness

These screenings not only protect the intended parents but the donors as well. Donors will receive detailed information regarding their own health.  

Only the women who are deemed healthy and emotionally sounds will be able to donate.

2. It Takes Time to Get Matched

The term ‘matched’ refers to when a match is made between intended parents and an egg donor. 

Choosing an egg donor is a big decision for the intended parents. They need to take their time to find the perfect donor for their family. Even if an egg donor is ready and willing to donate right away, she may need to show some patience. 

Egg donors don’t go through the retrieval process until they are matched with a couple who is ready for her eggs.

3. It’s Always a Good Idea to Use a Reputable Agency

Not all agencies are created equal. Make sure the agency you decide to work with adheres to the ASRM guidelines. These guidelines are in place to protect the integrity of the egg donation industry. 

Other signs of a good agency include:

  • Partnerships with the best fertility clinics

  • A quality database of donors

  • Rigorous screening process

  • Competitive compensation

  • Personal experience

4. All Kinds of Donors are Needed

Ivy league college degree. 

Athletic scholarship.

Accomplished musician. 

While these are all significant accomplishments, they are not necessary to have to be an egg donor. The truth is, we want to have a very diverse database. Every intended couple is looking for something different, and we want to be able to give them the best chance of finding what they want. 

In fact, Jewish, Indian, and Asian donors can actually earn more money. Donors in these ethnic groups are always in high demand because they are harder to find.

So regardless of your school or professional accomplishments, anyone who wants to donate is welcome to apply

5. Donating Eggs Takes 30 Minutes

Ok, let’s clarify. 

Yes, the retrieval process takes 30 minutes, but the entire process takes a little more time than that. 

First, the screening process can take up to six weeks, then we wait to be matched, and then the hormone treatments take two weeks.Don’t worry though, you’ll be able to work and play according to your own schedule up til a few days before the retrieval. 

The retrieval happens at a professional IVF clinic. A light sedative is given, and the eggs are extracted through a needle transvaginally. This procedure takes about 30 minutes. There is minimal pain, and the egg donor should be able to return to normal activities within the next day or two. 

6. Egg Donation Doesn’t Have to Be Anonymous

Unless of course, you want it to be. 

Some intended parents and donors decide to remain completely anonymous. In this case, the agency will handle all communications between the two parties. 

But, a recent trend has donors and parents meeting and getting to know each other. This can be beneficial for many reasons, including getting to know the woman your child will share DNA with. 

The connection can be short-term and only maintained during the egg donation process, or they can remain acquaintances and share the child’s significant milestones with each other. 

7. It’s Not All About the Money

Women who donate their eggs are not giving to get rich.

Think about it, The average compensation for egg donors is around $15,000. That’s barely enough to cover a year’s worth of college tuition or a down payment on an apartment. 

Most women who donate are doing so because they want to help those who can’t have a baby on their own. 

So, while the money helps, the altruism is the driving factor. 

Donating Eggs Explained

If you still have questions about donating eggs, don’t hesitate to check us out. We’re here for both intended parents and egg donors alike. 

So let’s all work together to find the perfect match.

What You Can Expect From the Best Egg Donor Agencies
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We’re going to let you in on a little secret: not all egg donor agencies are created equal. Trust us, we know.

When we began our own egg donor search to become fathers with the help of a donor, we had no idea how difficult it would be to find a reputable agency to work with. We had many unmet expectations and frustrating setbacks we had to deal with along our journey in finding the perfect donor.

One agency offered us a donor who disappeared the day before hormone treatment, another took a lump sum of money without clarifying what it was for and offered no refund when things didn’t progress. Because of our experience, we decided to open our own agency for the sole purpose of helping others.

If you find yourself overwhelmed at the thought of choosing which egg donor agency to work with, we’re here to help. Here’s what you need to know about egg donor agencies before you commit.

The Best Agencies Work With Clinics

The best donor agencies often work with the leading IVF doctors who specialize in reproductive endocrinology. Find an agency that works with revolutionary fertility clinics which are at the forefront of innovative treatments.

If an agency has a working relationship with reputable clinics, you can be assured that they have proven themselves trustworthy and reliable within the industry. Ask them which clincs they work most with, and if they can get a referral for you to speak to.

The Best Agencies Have Quality Databases

When looking for the perfect egg donor, you will want a selection of egg donors available to you that aren’t about quantity, but quality. These databases should be secure and only viewable by serious clients to protect the privacy of the donors.

Agencies should offer a blend of new donors and repeat donors. Repeat donors prove that this particular agency was fair and considerate of the donor to the point where she would want to work with them again. New donors show they can attract new women who want to do business with them.

Also, look for variety among the donors themselves. All nationalities should be represented. As well as donors who represent different educational backgrounds, different religious affiliations, and all kinds of career choices.

The Best Agencies Have a Rigorous Screening Process

No matter how tempting it may be for an agency to sign every donor who comes by, it’s imperative that there is a screening process in place to protect both the donor and the intended parents.

There are specific requirements every donor must meet before she can sign with an agency.  These requirements include factors such as age, medical history, and emotional stability.

A reputable agency will thoroughly screen each donor. This helps protects both the donor and the intended parents from any negative outcome that could have potentially been prevented.

The Best Agencies Have Competitive Compensation

Donors are giving an extraordinary and sacred gift for another couple to have a family. Because of this selfless act, a reputable agency will compensate their donors fairly.

The best agencies understand how important the donors are to their business. They will treat them with respect and walk them through the entire process from the initial application screening to matching with an intended couple, and finally through the IVF process.

The Best Agencies Practice Good Ethics

Because of the nature of the business, egg donor agencies need to prove that they work within excellent moral and ethical standards.

Good agencies will be aligned with the highest standards in the industry. Find an agency who claims to be part of the SEEDS Union of Ethics and the American Society for Reproductive Medicine or ASRM.

The Best Egg Donor Agencies Offer Compassion and Experience

Find an agency who deals with their customers with compassion. Find an agency that will treat all parties with respect. Find an agency that understands they are helping build families, not just brokering business deals.

The process of finding an egg donor and going through the IVF process is a very unique experience. Find the egg donor agencies that have invaluable knowledge and experience, that are willing to will work with you until you find the perfect match, and who will advocate for you every step of the way.  After all, we’re in the business of building families.