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Do You Fit the Requirements to Donate Eggs?
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Maybe you know someone who has struggled with fertility. Perhaps it’s a gay couple who can’t have kids on their own. Or you’ve talked to someone who has donated before

In any event, here you are wondering if egg donation is for you.

There is a lot of thought and consideration on our end when we look at egg donor applications. If you feel that this is something you’d like to do, here is a breakdown of our requirements to donate eggs.

Mental Health

Though we do our best to get a feel for if donors are prepared to donate through the initial screening process, Donors will eventually be asked to undergo an extensive psychological evaluation with our license psychologist. He will do a thorough examination to make sure you are mentally prepared to donate to a family trying to have a child.

You will eventually go through a genetic assessment as well with Dr. Gina Davis from Advocate Genetics. This evaluation will gather personal and family history in regards to physical and mental illness and look for any repeating patterns. It’s essential for the donor to be completely honest during these evaluations and to share as much information as possible.

Another reason for the evaluations is to make sure that the donor fully understands any long term psychological effects of her decision. This gift of life that egg donors offer is priceless, but there are some legal and personal boundaries that must be in place. A donor must have the cognitive skills to understand this important decision fully.

Physical Health

An egg donor must be physically healthy. Some physical requirements include:

  • Good height/weight ratio (BMI)

  • Regular menstrual cycles

  • No birth control implants

  • No drug use

  • Must not currently be on antidepressants or ADD medication. Past use for situational events where it was needed can be discussed, and is often okay!

We also ask for an extensive self reported medical history for you and your family. We look for a history of cancer, diabetes, or any congenital health problems. It is imperative that you are completely honest on this part of the evaluation as there may be hereditary conditions that could be passed on to the baby.

Personality Traits

Aside from having an inherently wonderful personality to pass on to the baby, you must have certain traits that will help you get through the process. The egg donation process can be challenging. Here are some of the characteristics that will help you have a positive experience.

Responsible

You must be able to keep appointments, stick to a strict calendar, and follow through with treatments. There will be a team of people who are depending on you to come through for them.

Open Communicator

If you have any issues or concerns, are you able to communicate them? Do you answer texts, voice mails, and emails promptly? Communication is essential -- especially when dealing the time-sensitive procedures.

Honest

We already discussed being honest on the pre-screening tests and evaluations. But honestly is also essential when dealing with the intended parents. Are you able to convey how you honestly feel about the arrangement? If the couple wants an open relationship, are you okay with that?

Brave

Giving yourself daily shots is not for the weak. However, the injectable needles are incredibly small. They are the size of a botox needle and most donors find the injectables to be incredibly easy to do.

Donors are strong women who are willing to be a little uncomfortable for the greater cause. Being a donor means being stretched beyond your comfort zone, but in return, you’ll be able to reap the reward of watching a beautiful family grow because of your donation.

Flexible

We’re not going to ask you to give up your life completely, but a little flexibility may be necessary. There will scheduled phone calls, clinical visits, and some travel may be required. We do our best to make it work with your timeline regarding school and work. However, a donor with great availability is a donor who will be matched quickly!

Selfless

If money is your only motivation, this may not be the right fit for you. And egg donor’s primary motivation is to find a couple they can help. They want to give the gift of life. A selfless mentality will be what gets you through the process.

We do our best at Elevate to ensure this will be a gratifying process for you. Take it from someone who has searched for an egg donor for years (me), it means the world to us that you are willing to offer some of your genetic material to someone like me who wants to offer a child the best life possible.

Educated

Our egg donors are  well-educated. You don’t have to have a 4.0 from an Ivy League school, but some education and professional accomplishments can help. Your education and work history will show know how to work hard to achieve your goals.

Physical Traits

At our agency, we represent all women who desire to be a donor regardless of race, religion or ethnic group. We are open to any donor who is interested in applying. As long as they pass the evaluations and meet Elevate criteria, we will do our best to find you the perfect match when looking for intended parents to donate to.

Donors of Asian, East Indian, or Jewish descent are always in highest demand. Other physical traits that seem to requested frequently include height and sometimes a specific eye color. It is important to remember that you are often being considered to help a family based on physical characteristic the parents already have.

If you happen to have physical traits that are in high demand, your compensation may be higher.

The Age Factor

While we love women of all ages, we only accept donors who are between 20 and 30.

Here’s why:

If you’re younger than 20, you may not be emotionally ready to make such a big decision. It’s also a physically taxing process once it starts. The medication, injections, and clinical visits can be a lot to handle. Not to mention, your adolescent body is still growing and changing. However, in special cases we will bring on a donor of 19 and work on getting her matched for when she turns 20.

If you’re 18, see us again in a few years.

If you’re older than 30, we hate to say it, but the quality and quantity of your eggs are declining. Women can still get pregnant and have children in their 30s, but studies show that the chance of having an embryo with abnormal chromosomes raises significantly after the age of 32.

In addition to the increased rate of defects, older women do not respond to hormone treatment as well as younger women. This could result in fewer eggs at the time of retrieval. And we want to give our intended parents the best possible outcome.

Do You Fit the Requirements to Donate Eggs?

Do you fit the requirements to donate eggs? Do you want to help a family who needs someone like you to get a family? If so, then start the application process today.

You never know -- there could be intended parents who are waiting to meet you.

What's a Man Got to do? A Step-by-Step Process On Men Having Babies
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Remember 7th-grade biology? Talking about male and female reproductive systems? Remember how your buddies felt awkward talking about sex with a cute girl sitting next to them? But you remember how disappointing and unfair it felt that only hetero couples could create a baby.

At that time, you knew you wanted a family, but you also knew you wouldn’t be with a woman. So, you put your family dreams in your back pocket and hoped for a miracle one day.

As a gay couple, it does take a little more planning for you to have a baby. But, with egg donation, your dream of having your own biological family can be achieved.

Read on to understand the miraculous process of how men having babies can become a reality.

Financially Set

We’re not gonna lie, the process of men having babies can get expensive. As intended parents, it is up to you to cover all the fees associated with the egg donation process. These fees cover a range of mandatory items such as:

  • Agency fees

  • Legal services

  • Insurance

  • Psychological evaluations

  • Donor compensation

  • Travel costs

  • Genetic assessment

Plan on spending anywhere from $18,000 to $30,000 to secure a donor and support her financially from beginning to end of her egg donation.

Find an Agency

A quick google search will show that there are many egg donation agencies out there. The trick is finding a good one.

We suggest finding an agency that has been through the process themselves. They know how vulnerable intended parents feel when they put all their trust into an agency to help them build a family.

Find an agency that has a good reputation, great professional relationships with doctors and clinics, and a great database of donors to choose from. Don't take this decision lightly. Finding the right agency to work with can make or break your egg donor experience.

Men Having Babies Must Choose a Donor

This is the fun part. You get to hand pick the genes for your future babies.  But, before hand-picking your most desired genetic traits, you need to think about what kind of donor agreement you’d like.

Known Donor

This is an open form of egg donation. In the agreement, the intended parents and the egg donor have mutually decided that they will have some sort of relationship. This means they can call or email through the process, discuss certain issues, and allow the donor to even meet the child one day if desired.

Semi-Known Donor

Intended parents and egg donors agree on some sort of limited contact that all parties are comfortable with. Perhaps the intended parents want to talk to the donor once or twice during the process, but other than that, there no exchange of information

Anonymous Donor

With an anonymous egg donor, you will only receive the background information about your donor. The intended parents and the egg donor agree to respect each other’s privacy during the egg cycle and moving forward.

There is no right or wrong answer to what kind of agreement should be made. Think about what you feel most comfortable with, then find a donor who fits into your plan.

Hormone Treatment and Egg Retrieval

Send flowers.

Seriously. For an egg donor, this is a very taxing time both physically and emotionally. Show your donor unwavering support.

Now What?

Once the eggs are retrieved, they are fertilized with the intended couples’ sperm. After a certain amount of time, the eggs are assessed to see which ones have responded well. These fertilized eggs are now called embryos.

Only the best embryos are implanted. Through scientific research, we can predict which embryos have the best chance of making it through a healthy pregnancy.

At this time, you can get either implant into your surrogate right away, or you can store your eggs until you’re ready for a baby.

Time to Become a Daddy

Because of egg donation, men having babies is possible. Now is the time to have that family you’ve been dreaming about. And we’re here to help you every step of the way. So don’t hesitate any longer; let’s find that perfect donor and grow your family.